Vacation energy
The best way to have the most fun going out with your girlfriends is to embody something I call vacation energy.
The way to have the most fun going out with your girlfriends is to embody something I call vacation energy.
You know how when you’re on vacation with your girls (it can even be a weekend getaway) possibilities feel endless? In my experience, the likelihood that my friends and I meet fun guys, get free drinks, have cracky, funny interactions, wake up with a million texts from unknown numbers and a camera roll full of hilarious pictures is so much higher when we are away, visiting, traveling.
So let’s break it down as I did with my friend Lauren on our ferry ride back from Catalina this weekend where we experienced exactly that. Why do we feel so good when we’re on vacation? We’re not at home, most likely not working, it’s exciting, it’s new, it’s spontaneous. We have nothing to lose when we’re on vacation. We don’t go to this bar every weekend. We don’t know these people. We’ll probably never see them again. It feels like an escape from our normal lives. We’re physically and mentally transported elsewhere.
It’s pretty self-explanatory why we feel good, even better, on vacation than we do living our mundane lives. BUT…we can improve our mundane lives by embodying vacation energy. How do we do this? It’s similar to the idea that your vibration precedes your manifestation. If you want more money, how would Fiona with more money act? Be her now. Act like you are on vacation (even when you’re not) and you’ll exude vacation energy and therefore have a better night. There’s a variety of different things we can do. Let’s start with the 5 senses and the getting ready process:
Smell: Wear a perfume that you either associate with a certain trip you went on, or makes you feel like you’re traveling. I lean into coconut and vanilla scents. Light a candle and fill your room with a delightful vacation scent as you do your makeup.
Taste: Make a fun drink for the pregame. Making a restaurant quality cocktail pregame + yap = game over. Also, on vacation you might put in more effort to have little appetizers at the pregame or go out to dinner before hitting the town. You’d probably sit outside with the girls, or watch sunset, or take pictures. Do the things you’d do on vacation if you were at your Airbnb. Maybe you’d all get ready together or share clothes.
Sound: Vacation tunes. Again, I lean into tropical sounds because that’s my favorite type of destination. I have a Spotify playlist here titled “moving to the tropics” feel free to tap in.
Sight: The outfit, the makeup, the accessories, the bag. Fake tan, faux freckles, sun-kissed blush, french pedicure, whatever you gotta do. If it’s cold out, lean into the makeup. A huge part of sight is also the environment, choose a bar or restaurant you haven’t been to.
Touch: Be warmer: hug your friends, hug new people you meet, be warmer with your body language, arm touch, shake a hand, kiss on the cheek. Before going out, moisturize, guasha, spend that time pampering yourself, treating yourself. Maybe stretch beforehand, do a heated yoga class, especially during those cold winters this is so helpful to feel warmer.
The next major component of vacation energy is acting like you have nothing to lose. If you’re going out in your city, in your town, this doesn’t always come so easily. The best thing to do is set the tone with your friends that it’s going to be a silly, goofy mood type of night. Sometimes you have to put the team on your back and be the tone setter. You can always seed it in the group chat before the pregame. Like, “You guys I’m feeling crazy tonight.” Give them a heads up so they can prepare accordingly. When you and the girls are riding a silly, goofy wave, collectively you’re more attractive to everyone you encounter. The bouncer, the bartender, girls, guys, the pizza shop owner, the Uber driver. Silliness and goofiness exudes, “I got nothing to lose, I’m just here for a good time not a long time.”
People love this energy because it feels like an escape. It’s refreshing, it’s a very high vibration, it’s incredibly attractive and joyous. It feels like vacation.
SO REAL